15 January 2015
Ear Surgery
Left ear surgery confirmed on 16th march 2015 @ Alexandria Hospital. Will be staying for a night. Right ear surgery unconfirmed but definitely need surgery too.
11 January 2015
Just some stupid ranting
I think i need to let this out. Don't read if you don't feel like reading my rants. Seriously pissed. (11/1/2105)
How does one view a person (in this case,a cousin) who choose to stay at their relatives' house for an indefinite amount of time? Yeah,that is happening to me right now. My uncle's son (cousin) is living and working here in Singapore,he's the son of my uncle who is living in the UK. First off, he does pay some of his salary to my parents for staying here,and does his own clothes and meals,but that's only solving part of the problem. The other part of the problem is that my house only has two rooms,aside from the master bedroom. I'm staying in one,he's staying in another, and that's fine,but what happens when my elder brother gets back from Australia? He's like to return within this yeah,unless he found work there. He also knows that someone will have no room to stay if he returns,so it's very troublesome to sort out. My brother knows the situation, though i'm not sure if he's this is one reason why he's planning to look for work in Australia. I'm taking my brother's room right now,and my cousin is taking up my sister's room (who moved out). So if my brother returns,he'll want his room back. Of course someone can sleep in the living room but it's not good (TV sounds, lights...). Since my cousin grew up in UK,he's accustomed to western living. So we seldom even see him because he's working and probably go drinking after work,returning late at night. My mom was really upset about some of his behaviour in the house (like using things that doesn't belong to him without asking),but as Asians she kept it to my dad and I. It makes me wonder at times like this, that do foreigners treat Singapore/or any other country they chose to stay in, like as if it's their home? I bet they tell their friends back home that they learnt loads from their host country,but really what did they really know? They know how to demand the locals to fit in with their culture,that's what. I know I shouldn't be so anti-foreigners, but what I'm experiencing is real,right in my own house.
Edit (29/1/2015) : I made this post a while back, now my brother is coming back this Friday,so I have to share a room with him again just because a relative is occupying a room in our house. All I'm saying is, that priority should go to the immediate family no? My opinion is that just because you're a relative doesn't mean everything in the house belongs to you. How would he like it we reverse the situation,and he has a relative who overstays in his house? Yeah yeah it sounds like i'm backstabbing my cousin,but what the fuck anyway, this shit really pissed me off quite a bit. I'm sure it's fine and all,but that's not the problem,the problem is he's occupying a room. At the time i posted the original body of this post, I was pissed. Now that my brother is coming back,I'm feeling equally upset about the situation too. The solution is really simple; my cousin moves out. But he already purchased so many comfort items in 'his' room that I doubt he'll be moving out any time soon. I talked to my dad about it,but he seems not bothered by the situation. I wanna know what rational mindset should I take on this situation,because I can't think of any. I try to be understanding and patient,but how can I be patient when either my brother or I will have to do our business in the living room? The only thing I can do is talk to him directly about it. What I got back was that he planned to stay here fora few years before moving elsewhere. I don't know what else to do,but I know my patience is wearing thin.
Through the 2 years in the UK, I learn that westerners freely use whatever that is in the house whether it's theirs or not,but it's just not the same here in Asia. When you're at the host country,you freaking better behave yourselves. Maybe initially one might not understand the traditions and habits of the locals,but since westerners aren't afraid of asking, then it's up to them to learn what to/to not do. How I know my cousin is planning for a long stay? He's been with us for a few months now,and I think it was about 2 months back,he bought himself a 24" monitor. I can understand that accommodation in Singapore is expensive, but is staying with relatives really the solution? I mean, there's so many restrictions if he stays with us, compared to staying alone/with friends, plus taking up a room too. Also I remember my mom ranted to me about this point, that if as my parents get older,will he want to take care of them? If not,then why the hell are you living in our house, if you're not part of our immediate family? Personally, I can still accept his staying here in our house,as long as he has a plan to move elsewhere when my brother gets back,but my mom is not so tolerant, and I'm not sure what my dad is planning either. Some of the things that irked my mom (and to some extent,myself), is that he never bothers switching things off,from the lights, to the electrical appliances in his room. Another one is when he is on video conversation with others late at night. The wall is made of concrete,but it can't block out sound effectively, so it can get frustrating when I try to sleep. Also,i'm not sure why he has to speak at nearly the top of his voice, is the connection really that bad? Yeah,my dad told him about it every now and then,but i'm not sure if he forgets or not. My parents did quarrel one or twice about it,but once it got really heated. So how can I try to remain calm and be tolerant when he's unknowingly (I hope) stirring up shit in the house. Thankfully those arguments were a few months back when he just came,so hopefully some sort of understanding can be achieved.
Let me try to understand from his perspective. Why stay at our house? Oh,because there'a room,he will pay part of my salary (and that settles everything), has everything including gym,swimming pool,near the reservoir and best of all,convenient.
Side note : Electrical and water bills are capped in the UK for the standard uk house. Internet connection in UK is generally much faster than Singapore's.
I then considered how I behaved when I first arrived in the UK,where I stayed at my uncle's house while searching for accommodation. One of the mistakes I knew I made when I first reached the UK was some manners. Yeah, manners. I think we tend to over look simple acts like opening the door for others, and thanking the bus captain,which come naturally to the Brits. I never really put much thought into it,but at least I knew what to do when I return,so I can fit in,not because I intend to stay permanently there,but because it's the norm to do so.
How does one view a person (in this case,a cousin) who choose to stay at their relatives' house for an indefinite amount of time? Yeah,that is happening to me right now. My uncle's son (cousin) is living and working here in Singapore,he's the son of my uncle who is living in the UK. First off, he does pay some of his salary to my parents for staying here,and does his own clothes and meals,but that's only solving part of the problem. The other part of the problem is that my house only has two rooms,aside from the master bedroom. I'm staying in one,he's staying in another, and that's fine,but what happens when my elder brother gets back from Australia? He's like to return within this yeah,unless he found work there. He also knows that someone will have no room to stay if he returns,so it's very troublesome to sort out. My brother knows the situation, though i'm not sure if he's this is one reason why he's planning to look for work in Australia. I'm taking my brother's room right now,and my cousin is taking up my sister's room (who moved out). So if my brother returns,he'll want his room back. Of course someone can sleep in the living room but it's not good (TV sounds, lights...). Since my cousin grew up in UK,he's accustomed to western living. So we seldom even see him because he's working and probably go drinking after work,returning late at night. My mom was really upset about some of his behaviour in the house (like using things that doesn't belong to him without asking),but as Asians she kept it to my dad and I. It makes me wonder at times like this, that do foreigners treat Singapore/or any other country they chose to stay in, like as if it's their home? I bet they tell their friends back home that they learnt loads from their host country,but really what did they really know? They know how to demand the locals to fit in with their culture,that's what. I know I shouldn't be so anti-foreigners, but what I'm experiencing is real,right in my own house.
Edit (29/1/2015) : I made this post a while back, now my brother is coming back this Friday,so I have to share a room with him again just because a relative is occupying a room in our house. All I'm saying is, that priority should go to the immediate family no? My opinion is that just because you're a relative doesn't mean everything in the house belongs to you. How would he like it we reverse the situation,and he has a relative who overstays in his house? Yeah yeah it sounds like i'm backstabbing my cousin,but what the fuck anyway, this shit really pissed me off quite a bit. I'm sure it's fine and all,but that's not the problem,the problem is he's occupying a room. At the time i posted the original body of this post, I was pissed. Now that my brother is coming back,I'm feeling equally upset about the situation too. The solution is really simple; my cousin moves out. But he already purchased so many comfort items in 'his' room that I doubt he'll be moving out any time soon. I talked to my dad about it,but he seems not bothered by the situation. I wanna know what rational mindset should I take on this situation,because I can't think of any. I try to be understanding and patient,but how can I be patient when either my brother or I will have to do our business in the living room? The only thing I can do is talk to him directly about it. What I got back was that he planned to stay here fora few years before moving elsewhere. I don't know what else to do,but I know my patience is wearing thin.
Through the 2 years in the UK, I learn that westerners freely use whatever that is in the house whether it's theirs or not,but it's just not the same here in Asia. When you're at the host country,you freaking better behave yourselves. Maybe initially one might not understand the traditions and habits of the locals,but since westerners aren't afraid of asking, then it's up to them to learn what to/to not do. How I know my cousin is planning for a long stay? He's been with us for a few months now,and I think it was about 2 months back,he bought himself a 24" monitor. I can understand that accommodation in Singapore is expensive, but is staying with relatives really the solution? I mean, there's so many restrictions if he stays with us, compared to staying alone/with friends, plus taking up a room too. Also I remember my mom ranted to me about this point, that if as my parents get older,will he want to take care of them? If not,then why the hell are you living in our house, if you're not part of our immediate family? Personally, I can still accept his staying here in our house,as long as he has a plan to move elsewhere when my brother gets back,but my mom is not so tolerant, and I'm not sure what my dad is planning either. Some of the things that irked my mom (and to some extent,myself), is that he never bothers switching things off,from the lights, to the electrical appliances in his room. Another one is when he is on video conversation with others late at night. The wall is made of concrete,but it can't block out sound effectively, so it can get frustrating when I try to sleep. Also,i'm not sure why he has to speak at nearly the top of his voice, is the connection really that bad? Yeah,my dad told him about it every now and then,but i'm not sure if he forgets or not. My parents did quarrel one or twice about it,but once it got really heated. So how can I try to remain calm and be tolerant when he's unknowingly (I hope) stirring up shit in the house. Thankfully those arguments were a few months back when he just came,so hopefully some sort of understanding can be achieved.
Let me try to understand from his perspective. Why stay at our house? Oh,because there'a room,he will pay part of my salary (and that settles everything), has everything including gym,swimming pool,near the reservoir and best of all,convenient.
Side note : Electrical and water bills are capped in the UK for the standard uk house. Internet connection in UK is generally much faster than Singapore's.
I then considered how I behaved when I first arrived in the UK,where I stayed at my uncle's house while searching for accommodation. One of the mistakes I knew I made when I first reached the UK was some manners. Yeah, manners. I think we tend to over look simple acts like opening the door for others, and thanking the bus captain,which come naturally to the Brits. I never really put much thought into it,but at least I knew what to do when I return,so I can fit in,not because I intend to stay permanently there,but because it's the norm to do so.
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